Friday, June 10, 2011

Day Three -- What Are We Aiming For? INTEGRITY!

There are occasions when I look at my sons and see glimpses of them in 10, 20, even 40 years.  I see fleeting moments of them as college students, husbands, fathers, employees. I know what I WANT to see...

I want them to stand up for what is right no matter who is around -- ESPECIALLY if no one is around.  I can't think of a better way to describe an example of living integrity than this.

In the LG, Brook so eloquently shares that as parents, God places us in unique situations that give us opportunities to teach our children about such things as integrity.  She says,

"As our sons see us in situations that demand a choice to walk in integrity we can create natural, life-giving conversations explaining to them why we chose the way we did.  Life i s full of opportunities to choose the easy way instead of the way of integrity, but a man of integrity 'ponders the way that is blameless' (Psalm 101:2).  Pausing to help our sons understand why we chose the way of integrity over what might have seemed to be a better or easier way trains their minds to ponder the blameless way."

Someone once shared with me that a key to raising healthy adults who walk in the faith is for them to see their parents admit they've sinned and ask for forgiveness.  Think back over the last few days and months.  Have you done this?  Show your sons the power of humility and use EVERY opportunity -- EVEN YOUR FAILURES -- to teach them to walk in the truth.

Spend time today covering your sons with the ten prayers in the integrity chapter.  Let them hear you pray these specific verses and prayers over them.

I was moved by so many things in the chapter -- so many ideas that hit me straight in the heart!  How about you -- what moved you?  Which verses to pray through really stood out?  Have you given much thought to what God expects of you as a parent, versus the things that are really His job?  Share your thoughts here or on the facebook page.

I will be lifting you up again in prayer today, asking God to give you strength and perseverance, and asking Him to change the hearts of your sons.  Thank you for sharing this journey with me!

"He who is steadfast in righteousness will attain to life ... "  Proverbs 11:19

3 comments:

mommy to many said...

Philippians 4:11 stood out. as young kids they always want, want want, and as their mom sometime I want things i don't need, i want things that can wait. but being content with what Jesus has given us already and in what he has done starts with the little "Wants and desires" in the little hearts if we can train them up to be content in what they have and what they need. and show them that God already knows what we need before we ask and he will be faithful in his promises.I want them to come to the point in rejoicing in what they have and to be content in what God has already given them.

the other verse is Ps. 101:2 train them up now to walk how you want them, better yet, how God desires them to walk later..... i don't want them to have to relearn how to walk!

hope this makes sense=0)
such a powerful chapter!

Alyssa said...

It DOES make sense! I'm so glad you shared -- I ESPECIALLY like where you said, "...show them that God already knows what we need before we ask and he will be faithful in his promises. ...rejoice in what they have and be content in what God has already given them." SO TRUE!!! I love this! And I agree -- POWERFUL chapter!

Sharla said...

Teaching them about being content seems to be so hard these days! Kids in general seem to have so much! It is a constant issue in our house.

My kids certainly have plenty of opportunities to see my failures. ;) there are plenty of them to see! With my 7 yr old especially, we try to talk about things that Mommy could have done better.

During baseball season this year, we had several discussions about doing what's right even when it's not easy or in our best interest. Unfortunately, we had some adult coaches not setting the best examples, but it at least gave us a concrete situation to discuss.